The Truth Behind Hitting Our Children

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Life is meant to be enjoyed and loved and cherished - not to live in fear. I have heard many excuses from people who defend spanking their children. Firstly, to be quite blunt, they are excuses and they are lazy. To use spanking as a way to control your children forces them into an existence controlled by fear. Perhaps the most detrimental excuses for spanking is to "protect" them. If what you are trying to achieve is to prepare them for a world where they can be safe and successful, it is imperative to understand that using corporeal punishment in any form will ensure that they are terrified and miserable.

Many may disagree with me and say, "Well I was spanked, and I'm fine," but they're wrong. They are not fine. Every decision, every choice, every reaction is made from fear. This has been the case for me my entire life. It has become so intense at times that I seriously believed that not being alive would be better.

The truth is, by trying to protect and save them using corporeal punishment, you are actually pushing them closer to destruction, or even death; If you are using corporeal punishment to teach them to survive the coldness of the rest of the world, you are only teaching them to see the coldness of the world.

But the world is not cold. It's not dangerous. And it's not evil. And if that is all your children learn to see, then you have already killed them.

Any tactic based in fear, used on the young minds of children, will likely result in a life of fear. And the result will be a series of limits and walls and glass ceilings that hold them down.

Please open your hearts and your minds, and please stop cutting the wings off our children before they ever even have a chance to realize their own true potential.

You are parents and caretakers. It is your Divine Calling to raise, nurture, and love our little ones. Because of the magnitude of this calling, it will never be easy and there are no shortcuts. Patience, love, understanding, and empathy are the only tools you need.  Give our children back their wings.

-Light & Truth

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